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Written by KyannaSimone.

Photography via KyannaSimone.

Recently, I came to a big realization: I only want threesomes and orgies. No one-on-ones. No solo partners. Just group sex.

Period.

That might sound a bit shocking to you, but I know what my body wants and I know what my body needs. It’s craving the touch, feel, and attention of multiple people caressing and kissing every inch of it. It’s craving the lips and breath of different people, while simultaneously feeling fingers, legs, arms, and breasts coming from all over — without having to necessarily know who they belong to.

Right now, I’m at a place in my life where I want to cum over and over again because different people are touching me in ways that one person simply couldn’t. I’ve also realized that — as much as I love and crave vaginas — I wouldn’t mind the insertion of a penis inside me. It’s been years, and I don’t want to be judged for it.

I’m at a place in my life where I want to cum over and over again because different people are touching me in ways that one person simply couldn’t.

Again, I know what I want.

I haven’t always been a group sex-only person. In the past, I was in a relationship that was very much closed. I loved it at the time, but I also expressed how interested I was in threesomes. We broke up before it could actually happened, but I figured “why do I need a partner to make this happen for myself?” That break-up fueled this empowering quest. Now that I’m single, I’m ready to do this for myself.

I like to think about it as an expansion of hook-up culture: some like to have sex with one person at a time, in a relationship or not. And others, like myself, want to experience the feeling to having sex with multiple people at the same time. No, it’s not too much. No, it’s not “hoeing around.” No, it’s not dirty. It’s just a different experience.

No, it’s not too much. No, it’s not “hoeing around.” No, it’s not dirty. It’s just a different experience.

I like to have sex and I like the act of making people feel satisfied by a touch, a kiss, or maybe even a look. I love coming to understand someone’s body and how to make them feel pleasure over and over again. Why not experience that with different people at the same time?

So how am I making this orgy dream happen for myself?

Well, the first part is, of course, finding people. I’m not the kind of person to approach someone at a bar, at my job, or even in public most times, so instead, I’ll hop on an app like Tinder or Bumble to swipe through people or couples to see who’s interested and fits my vibe. If you’re on my group sex wavelength, it’s the move. Easy as that!

Having threesomes isn’t something that happens on a consistent basis for me, but that’s something I am working on. And if there’s anything I’ve learned thus far, it’s this: there’s nothing wrong with this style of intercourse, if you’re also into it. It’s beautiful to experience it with people who want it too — no matter how many bodies are in the room.

KyannaSimone is a no-label, LGBTQ and Travel influencer from Brooklyn, New York who recently moved to Los Angeles, CA. KyannaSimone has dedicated her life to providing safe and positive spaces for members of the LGBTQ community while showcasing that queer woman people of color can travel the world through platforms such as YouTube and Instagram.